Most of us don’t realize that we have a few central narratives running through our lives because the stories we tell ourselves are so familiar that we don’t even realize they are stories. In my work with clients, I’ve found that it’s often not the events of life that allow or prevent success in love, work, and happiness. It’s the stories we tell ourselves — and we can change our stories.
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Promoting Self-Forgiveness in Youth
by John Yeagerby John YeagerHow an adult responds to, and forgives, a child or adolescent has lasting consequences. A constructive style of responding can foster self-forgiveness and learning in a young person, while a…
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No Worries, Andy! Immunize Yourself Against Job Anxiety
Dear Student,
Don’t worry when people tell you it will be hard to find a job. What the doom-and-gloom folks don’t understand is that they have something as contagious as the H1N1 virus– anxiety. Like the flu, they are probably “carriers” without even realizing it. You can innoculate yourself. -
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Is Your Underachiever Lazy, Dumb, or Unappreciated?
If your teen is in the bottom 80% of the class, you may have been told – or thought– that she is “an underachiever” (a polite way of saying lazy or dumb). Underachiever compared to what? Compared to the narrowly-defined measures of school performance or compared to the abilities that will help her to thrive in life?
In my opinion, your child is not under-achieving. I think your child is under-appreciated.
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How to See More Motivated Teens
When did we start calling kids “self-motivated” if they responded to someone or something outside themselves? Doesn’t the word “self” mean that it comes from the individual himself? Is someone truly self-motivated if they are doing something to get a reward from someone else? Teens who are not top students may appear to be unmotivated when we look only at their school performance.