Editor’s note: This article and the one Ryan wrote about signature strengths research will form the final chapter in the book, Character Strengths Matter: Living a Full Life, that will be published at the International Positive Psychology Conference on June 25. Watch for more about this book, which will be the third in the Positive Psychology News series, along with Resilience: How to Navigate Life’s Curves and Gratitude: How to Appreciate Life’s Gifts. It is being published in loving memory of Christopher Peterson, and proceeds will go to the Christopher Peterson Memorial Fellowship at the University of Pennsylvania.
One woman, a longtime sufferer of depression, was delving into a program on mindfulness and character strengths and was particularly affected by the character strengths components. Over the decades, she had been a regular customer of psychotherapy and medication to treat her depression. She and I interacted around her several-week practice of “using signature strengths in new ways” with the following exchange:
“I discovered I have to take my signature strength pill every day.”
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“When I use my curiosity or kindness or gratitude in a novel way, I feel better that day. When I forget to mindfully use a signature strength, I feel worse. It acts like a pill for me.”“Tell me more about that,” I commented with curiosity.
“It’s like this. When I take a fresh approach with a signature strength, my ceiling opens up, and I see the world more clearly. I see the blueness of the sky and the greenness of the trees. I want to connect with people. I feel better. I’m taking action, and I’m taking action with my core parts.”
“Sounds a bit like psychological exercise,” I observed.
“Exactly, just like running on a treadmill. It keeps me in a healthy place of taking action.”
In practice, however, people sometimes find it surprisingly challenging to come up with new ways to use one of their signature strengths. This is because we are not well-practiced at using our strengths, and when we do use them, we do it without much awareness. For example, have you paid much attention to your use of self-regulation as you brush your teeth? Your level of prudence or kindness while driving? Your humility while at a team meeting?
Here are three tips for using your signature strengths in mindful ways.Practical Tip #1: Anchor signature strengths in new ways with a daily activity.
Choose a regular activity you engage in such as leading a team meeting, handling telephone calls, working one-on-one with clients, walking your dog, talking with your spouse or significant other. Each time you start this activity, say to yourself – “I’d like to bring forth one of my signature strengths in a new way while I’m doing this activity.” This will anchor your strengths use into something that is already habitual and new ideas around enhancing strengths will then emerge.
Practical Tip #2: Map one of your signature strengths across the following 4 facets. This will allow you to widen the depth of your view of each strength. Thus a strength can be expressed:
- Through the Mind, in terms of logic, analysis, reasoning
- Through the Heart, in terms of feeling, body, emotion, intuition
- Interpersonally, in terms of behaviors that involve others
- Intrapersonally, in terms of behaviors when alone
Each of the 24 character strengths can be mapped out according these dimensions. Take gratitude as an example. Here’s how one client mapped out her gratitude along these facets. This is just one person’s map. Maps will vary from person to person.
Practical Tip #3: Be mindful of the following common errors people make around character strengths.
So far, I have emphasized ways researchers and practitioners have done well when it comes to signature strengths work. Now, let’s look at where they haven’t done as well. I’ve seen the very best practitioners, researchers, educators, and positive psychology leaders make some or all of these missteps when it comes to strengths work and strengths teaching.
- Targeting strengths instead of exploring strengths: using an authoritarian approach of telling a person what is most important for them to build up, rather than co-exploring strengths. This approach is rampant in schools in the United States of America.
- Prematurely focusing on lower strengths: lower strengths are important and should be focused on, BUT the core of who a person is should usually be given first priority.
- Displaying too much concern for character strengths overuse instead of appreciating/celebrating strengths. Again, overuse is a very important and deep topic BUT first things first. Help clients endorse, understand, appreciate, and even celebrate their best qualities first. Practitioners who do this in a substantial way are the ones that understand their clients better. They see a world of insight that opens up for client exploration and use.
- Limiting the focus to top 5 only: All 24 strengths matter. While the top 5-7 might matter the most for most people, we all have all 24 and becoming more conscious of how these emerge from moment to moment during a typical day is important.
- Jumping to action before understanding: Many practitioners skip the explore phase of the aware-explore-apply model of character strengths work. Exploring helps the client draw connections to who they are and why this work matters.
- Strength mindlessness and acting on autopilot: Every person, no matter how self-evolved, has MANY strengths blind spots.
Reflecting and working on character strengths is a life-long process. This is why I view mindfulness as the missing ingredient in character strengths work.
Niemiec, R. (2013). Mindfulness and Character Strengths. Hogrefe.
Peterson, C. & Seligman, M. (2004). Character strengths and virtues: A handbook and classification. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
Seligman, M. E. P., Steen, T. A., Park, N., & Peterson, C. (2005). Positive psychology progress: Empirical validation of interventions. American Psychologist, 60, 410–421.
Anchor courtesy of Leo Reynolds