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From Vampires to Angels: The Freedom to Create New Beliefs

written by Nicholas Hall 7 May 2009

Nicholas Hall, MAPP '06, is the manager of the Stanford University Graduate School of Business Behavioral Lab. He consults on worker satisfaction and engagement, and sits on the advisory board of Omnirisk Management Tools. His research work focuses on work satisfaction, character strengths, and positive psychology, and is published in the Journal of Organizational Behavior.

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Are you always the same person?  In some situations, you may feel stressed but strong, moving forward knowing that an adversity is at least partly within your control. In other situations, you may feel like an adversity is so overwhelming that all you could do is lie down and give up.

Between stimulus and response is the freedom to choose.
~ Viktor Frankl

Often we have no idea what creates our fear; it is just there. How can we change how we feel if we may not even know where it comes from? What can we do to uncover our fear and stress, and learn to better handle it or make it disappear altogether? In honor of this month’s optional theme of stress and resilience, here are some positive psychology tips on how to destroy our vampires and let our angels in.

Helplessness is a Vampire

Helplessness is a wildly destructive vampire. It pours acid on the fertile ground of our minds, sucking the blood out of our self-confidence and self-worth, crushing our self-esteem, and creating pessimism in all that we do. Helplessness has all kinds of negative consequences, including a lowered immune function, decreased satisfaction in life, and impaired relationships with others. (Doesn’t this even sound like the pale, sickly-looking, brooding, anti-social vampire in stories?)

Our greatest source of shelter from stress is our own mind. We’ve all seen it: the smiling cancer patient and the depressed college student. One has a short future to look forward to, the remainder of which will mostly be filled with pain. The other is in the prime of life, with an entire future to look forward to. Why are the responses of these people so out of whack with their stressors? One has angels, and the other is full of vampires.

Optimism is an Angel

Optimism is good for you. It’s also more fun.
~ Martin E. P. Seligman



Optimism is an angel for no other reason except that it is on your side.  There does not need to be any kind of religious component, unless you wish there to be.  Optimism empowers us to have control over our lives because we have control of our minds. Through optimism and having control of your life, we tend to take the risks that we want to take in life to grow, rather than shrink in the face of adversity. We believe that we can do something, and this belief causes us to persist longer at our task, thereby leading to our success, writes positive psychology founder Martin Seligman in Learned Optimism.

You might not be used to thinking optimistically. Not a problem. Here’s where this article comes in. Optimism, especially for the habitual pessimist, is all about practice. It is about practicing throwing your negative beliefs out into the daylight of truth and letting them burn like the vampires they are in the bright sunlight of day. It is about practicing replacing those vampires with the angles of optimistic beliefs that carry you on their wings to a happier, more fulfilled, more successful life.

Discovering your Beliefs through the ABC’s

Martin Seligman outlines the ABC method of thought discovery and disputation in Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life.  (You can read more about this in earlier PPND articles: my article Is feeling better as easy as ABC?, Dave Shearon’s article ABCing Parental Involvement, and Doug Turner’s Learning Optimism) These ABC’s are the backbone of what you need to destroy those vampires and replace them with angels:

A stands for ‘Adversity’
What is the event that caused you to feel a certain way? What was the activity that set your consequences in motion?

B stands for ‘Belief’
Your beliefs are how you explain the adversity to yourself. This is the heart of Seligman’s “explanatory style” of optimists and pessimists. “I can rule this” vs. “I am a failure.” “This is a new challenge” vs. “My childhood traumas are insurmountable.”

C stands for ‘Consequences’
The consequences are your feelings about yourself in this situation given your beliefs about it. Beliefs also lead to your behaviors, so sometimes you can see what your consequences are by looking at what you’re doing because of your beliefs.

Externalization: Throwing Vampires into the Light

Often, all we know is that we feel terrible in a situation without being aware of any “internal monologue.” Often, we read suggestions to “monitor your inner thoughts or your ‘self-talk’.” What if you don’t hear any? What if your vampires are hidden and you can only see the pale-white ghosts of their consequences?

The way to do this is to externalize your internal beliefs by creating some dialogue for yourself. In Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman talks about a technique called “externalization.” This technique really helps if you know how you’re feeling or reacting in a situation, but you have no awareness of a thought process. (Also see Dave Shearon’s article I know what I was feeling, but what was I thinking?)

Two Techniques for Externalization

Journaling.  Keep a journal, diary, or small notebook with you to jot down thoughts when you have a few moments. When you notice yourself feeling or behaving in ways that are like vampires (i.e. negative feelings or behaviors), write them down.

Write them down the moment you have theses behaviors or feelings for best results. It may be helpful to have three columns on your paper: A, B, and C. When you recognize vampire behaviors, write them down under Consequences. Next, write down either the adversity or the belief that may have caused your consequence. Typically, we know what the adversity was, but we draw a blank at what our beliefs might be. This is how this exercise really helps – by breaking out the components. To identify a belief, an in-the-moment thought, go with what feels most right and honest. You have thrown your vampire out into the sunlight by naming these aspects of your thoughts and feelings.

Talking.  Another way to externalize is by going through these steps with someone you know well and who you feel won’t judge you negatively, especially if it is someone that cares about you. Verbally externalize these vampires for yourself with someone: “I’m not getting up excited in the morning,” “I leave the room when X– walks in,” or “I haven’t exercised in five days.” They lose their power in the light of recognition, in the light of scrutiny.

Slaying Vampires, Creating Angels

If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.
~ W.L. Bateman

There is one more step beyond the ABC’s.  That’s the D – Disputation.  We can follow Bateman’s truism and take the negative beliefs identified before – our vampires – and begin arguing against them.  (Other great articles on this topic are Senia Maymin’s A.P.E. Method to Get Out of a Bad Mood, and Kathryn Britton’s Taking positive psychology to work: The reframing skill.)

There are four main ways to slay your vampire beliefs and create angel beliefs.

Evidence: The strongest way to crush a negative belief is by summarizing factual evidence as to why it’s incorrect. What is the evidence that this belief is false? “I am not like my parents in this adversity because I behave differently in these ways…” “I am not weak; I am usually able and strong because of these other situations where I have proven that to myself such as ….”

Alternatives:  Almost all adversities have multiple causes. Give alternative reasons/causes for why the adversity happened in the first place. Focus on the cause that is less destructive or more under your control.

Implications:  This is what you turn to when the facts aren’t on your side and your Beliefs may, in part, be correct. De-catastrophizing is the rule here. A good question here is: “So what? Is this really so awful? Are the implications of this really so bad? What is the evidence (above) that can weaken the implication of this belief?” Ask yourself how you can change yourself or your beliefs now and in the future in order to get new and different outcomes next time.

Usefulness:  Ask yourself: “How useful is this belief to me?” The blood-sucking vampire beliefs we hold serve only to do one thing: keep us in a familiar place of helplessness, weakness, and powerlessness.

After each one of these four, ask: “Now, what are possible alternative consequences given these disputations? I.e., what else can I do?  How else can I be acting in this moment?”

Go through these disputation methods for all of your useless beliefs until they shrivel up like a vampire in the sunlight. Write them down in your diary and journal about them. Dispute and argue against them until you are hoarse and they are dead, dead, dead.

Creating Angels

Create a new column that lists your new angel belief. During this exercise, you hopefully have come across some possible new beliefs that you can adopt and carry with yourself into the future. Specifically, write them down:

  • What are your new angel beliefs?  What beliefs move you forward?
  • What are your new consequences because of these new angel beliefs?

Literally write these new angel beliefs in conspicuous places for you to be reminded of them: on your bathroom or bedroom mirror, taped onto your computer, on your dashboard, put into a tape recording and listen to it the same time every day or whenever you feel you need it, make it your computer’s wallpaper or your put it on your cell phone. Tell your friends about your new belief, so long as they are open and supportive of your new belief. Be creative. Have fun painting your new beliefs throughout your life.

Enjoy your growth!


Seligman, M. E. P. (2006). Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. 2nd Edition. New York: Vintage.

Nosferatu courtesy of King Chimp
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Christine Duvivier 7 May 2009 - 5:47 pm

Hi Nick, Great article, thanks! I love your use of a college student and cancer patient as great reminders that circumstances have nothing to do with our feelings. And your vampire metaphor is entertaining too!


Jeff D 7 May 2009 - 6:16 pm

I’m glad that you talked about not being able to find beliefs. That’s been the devil in the details for me. I don’t think I am alone in this. There must be others who feel the impact of the emotion/behavior chain but can’t hear the pessimistic words. I can’t ever seem to locate the precise belief that is troublesome.

Can you also speak to the problem of holding a belief that disputation cannot possibly work? That it is naive and too simple to be effective? When I am personally calm, I believe fully that the technique works, but when I am angry or distraught…no go.

Thank you,

I know it works, but in the thick of a bad mood, I strongly resist doing it. That keeps me locked in darkness.

Dave Shearon 8 May 2009 - 7:12 am

Nice job, Nick — I like the vampire/angel metaphor also! Last night, I watched Michael Fox show “Adventures of an Incurable Optimist.” It included Julie Norem, the “defensive pessimism” researcher in a very brief scene. As I read your article, it occured to me that the your point on implications and de-catastrophizing may be the part of the ABC approach to resilience that is most helpful to defensive pessimists. It acknowledges that bad things could happen in the future and allows the individuals to plan for the best path forward. Similar to Hope Theory’s allowance of multiple paths to a goal or of finding ways around obstacles. Thanks!

Susan J. Hwang 8 May 2009 - 11:14 am

The Vampire Angel dichotomy vividly captured the contrast between pessimism and optimism. Great, tangible actions as well! Susan

Angus 26 May 2009 - 6:20 am

I missed this earlier Nick as I was travelling. I love it – it is so human and expressed so vividly. You help me and doubtless others not be afraid of dark places. Great piece.

Myla N. Conejar 4 September 2018 - 3:05 am

Dear Dr. Hall,
I am currently enrolled in Ed. D. in Guidance and Counseling at Central Philippine University, Iloilo City, Philippines. I am now working with my dissertation paper about the emotional intelligence of the faculty members in our university. With this, I would like to ask permission to use your Emotional Intelligence Questionnaire. I assure you that this is solely for educational purpose. Thank you very much for your kind-hearted response in this matter. More power and God bless you always.

Sincerely yours,

Myla N. Conejar

Nicholas Hall 4 September 2018 - 11:48 am

Hi Myla,
In fact, I am not the creator of this test. The emotional intelligence test is the MSCEIT – the Meyer, Salovey, Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test. It costs money to use, and you must be certified to administer it and interpret the results. You can find more here at: https://tap.mhs.com/Home/MSCEITTrainerPage.aspx.
Good luck,

Myla N. Conejar 9 September 2018 - 4:36 pm

Dear Dr. Hall,
I truly appreciated your kindness as well as for the effort to respond with my concern. Thank you very much especially for the suggestions in helping me work for my dissertation. However, the test that I am going to use is authored by you it is entitled: Emotional Intelligence Self-Evaluation (Dr. Nicholas Hall, Ph.D., Institute of Health and Human Performance).
I hope you can still give me the permission to use the Questionnaire for I believe this could really be a big help not only for my study but of course to serve as basis to develop a wellness program for teachers in our University. You see, as teachers we truly are experiencing stress and pressures brought about by the demands and challenges of teaching.
Furthermore, I am looking forward to keep in touch and be a part of your interesting topics here… It is really a healthful-inspiration to all of us.
Once again, thank you so much and God bless you always.

Respectfully yours,

Nick Hall 9 September 2018 - 5:57 pm

Hi Myla,
You may want this Nicholas Hall: https://health.usf.edu/nursing/faculty-staff/directory/43385/Hall
Good luck,

Kathryn 10 September 2018 - 9:37 am

Myla, I found this resource online. I believe it includes a contact: https://1.cdn.edl.io/9PKZTnAF5sRmMYhaKNkf6IZfHy1ny9VlR1BqKQpPJaOcgPqw.pdf


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