Despite rumors or cynicism, Mother’s Day is not a holiday that was created by Hallmark. However, in many ways it has evolved in such a way that perhaps the cynics have a point. The very first celebrations for mothers date back to the annual spring festival the Greeks dedicated to Rhea, the mother of many deities, and to the offerings ancient Romans made to their Great Mother of Gods, Cybele. Christians celebrated this festival on the fourth Sunday in Lent in honor of Mary, mother of Christ. In England this holiday was expanded to include all mothers and was called Mothering Sunday.
Where Did Mother’s Day Come From?
Mother’s Day in the United States dates back to about 150 years ago when an Appalachian mother, Anne Jarvis, organized a day to raise awareness of poor health conditions in her community, a cause she believed would be best advocated by mothers. She called it “Mother’s Work Day.” Fifteen years later, Julia Ward Howe, a Boston poet, pacifist, and suffragist had similar ideals after the Civil War when she attempted to create a formal Mother’s Day for Peace, which was to encourage mothers to rally for peace because she believed they bore the loss of human life more harshly than anyone else.
When Anne Jarvis died, her daughter Anna began to lobby businessmen and politicians to create a special day to honor mothers. The first such Mother’s Day was celebrated in Grafton, West Virginia, on May 10, 1908, in the church where Anne Jarvis had taught Sunday School. Five years later, the House of Representatives adopted a resolution calling for officials of the federal government to wear white carnations on Mother’s Day. In 1914 Anna’s hard work paid off when Woodrow Wilson signed a bill recognizing Mother’s Day as a national holiday.
From Gratitude Letters and Church to Dining Out and the Highest Phone Traffic
At first, people observed Mother’s Day by attending church, writing letters to their mothers (gratitude letters!), and eventually, by sending cards, presents, and flowers. As the commercialization of Mother’s Day increased, Jarvis became more and more enraged and became an opponent of what the holiday had become. She believed that the day’s sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit and so in 1923 she filed a lawsuit to stop a Mother’s Day festival, and was even arrested for disturbing the peace at a convention selling carnations for a war mother’s group. Before her death in 1948, Jarvis is said to have confessed that she regretted ever starting the mother’s day tradition.
As we all may know, Mother’s Day is one of the most commercially successful holidays, is the most popular day of the year to dine out, and telephone companies record their highest traffic. Although I don’t believe that flowers, lovely dinners and pampering are bad ways to celebrate our mothers, I do think it’s important that we understand the meaning behind our rituals. Although today is probably not the most materialistic of holidays (I don’t know a single mother who doesn’t treasure her homemade gifts most), I think there are some ways that we can be more cognizant about how we wish to display our values through a holiday. By doing away with distractions and bells and whistles, we can focus on what matters most within our family so that we can find our lives filled with meaning, purpose and happiness.
By concentrating on meaningful rituals and traditions, the materialistic aspects of holidays will most likely diminish. From my observations, the most treasured family rituals are usually interesting, fulfilling, and fun and typically involve family, friends, faith, nature, charity and giving, music, the arts, and food. It also seems to me that Seligman’s gratitude letter is most appropriate for today and best honors Mother’s Day history.
I think it’s also important to remember that in the United States, this holiday started as a way for mothers to advocate causes, namely healthy communities and peace. Let’s not forget to remember that this is a day to celebrate the milestones of all women and the positive influence and impact that mothers have in making our world better. Hopefully, by knowing more about the history of this day we will all be a little more aware today of the meaning behind our actions and how our holiday rituals reinforce what we value.
All that being said, turn off your computer and go make your mom feel fantastic!
Flores no dia das mães courtesy of Vitorio Benedetti