Turns out it’s not enough to be pretty and witty–we now have to be gritty. Grit is getting some hot press at the moment, suggesting that if we want to be truly successful in life, we ain’t gonna achieve it without grit.
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Short-term Gain: Could You Please Pass the Blame?
Remember the game “hot potato” that you played as a kid? Blame is like that. No one wants to be left holding it, since you might get burned. …All of us have times when we are clueless, and we, too, pass the blame to keep from feeling shame or embarrassment. Do you find yourself using the passive voice, saying, “Well, yes, mistakes were made.” But by whom?
By Zak Maymin, Guest Author
I have read PPND articles for years, and recently several of the articles showed me the similarity between positive psychology and chess. There may be two analogies in chess that illustrate and bolster up a few positive psychology principles about change and happiness.
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The Measure of Your Powers
How do you want to feel in your life? In your work? Doug Newburg interviewed hundreds of world-class performers, including athletes, business leaders, artists, and surgeons, to find out what made them tick. A consistent pattern emerged from their stories.
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When Being the Best Student isn’t Best for the Child–The Myths of Education (Part II)
We all want the best for our kids. So when we urge a teen to be the best possible student, it’s often because we know this will get him into the “best” colleges—and we assume this will lead to the best life. On the flip side, we assume that if you’re not a top student, you won’t have a wonderful life. We assume wrong.
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What’s Love Got to Do With It?
What if there were more love in schools? Imagine an American classroom in February. On the big wall calendar, there is a groundhog on the 2nd, silhouettes of Abraham Lincoln…
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“Bee-ing the Change” with Intention and Love
When we change ourselves, it is important that we invite those in our spheres of influence into the new possibility we have created for ourselves. This invitation comes with energetic and joyful dialogue with others about our visions, hopes, needs, values, and desires.
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Wishing and Willing – Awakening your Dreams through Strengths!
What are the foundations that help people awaken their dreams to make them a reality? Unfortunately, wishing has become magical thinking for so many people who have high expectations, but haven’t developed a strong will to develop a vision and a plan, and subsequently, are not able to cash in on the rewards of their aspirations.
There are many articles in PPND about how to change— from my first PPND article two years ago about how to keep a New Year’s Resolution to Sherri’s article two days ago about changing yourself on the way to changing others. But how do we decide what to change? This article explores the question in terms of leverage, context changes, perceived efficacy, and social support […]
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What Do You Wish For?
Wishes touch on so many aspects of positive psychology. That is because wishes tell us something about what it means to be human. They frame for us our vision of what is important – both those things that are “big I” Important that give us meaning and purpose, as well as the little pleasures and comforts that ease and aide us in our enjoyment of life. Wishes help us define a vision of what is possible and show us what life could be.
While all people possess the ability to have hope, variability – like different grades of fuel – exists from person to person. The good news is that hope is malleable, which is to suggest we can bring people to more premium grades of hope.
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Appreciative New Year’s Resolutions
It’s that time of year again. If you are anything like me – Type A, and goal-oriented – your annual list of New Year’s resolutions is beginning to take shape. In prior years, I would construct my new resolutions on the shaky foundation of last year’s failures. …This year, I am determined to change it up and see what happens when I focus on what has worked rather than what has not.
Read this book! Review of “Creating Your Best Life”
What separates people who achieve lofty goals from people who procrastinate with even simple things? Creating Your Best Life: The Ultimate Life List Guide is the best and most comprehensive resource I have come across on this topic.
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Call Waiting? Answer the Call for Career Well-being
It keeps beeping, interrupting even the most focused thoughts and conversations: the call waiting signal. Do you answer? Hope the sound will go away? Hope that voicemail will pick it…
Attenti Alla Suocera! Language & Reality Through Social Construction
We form habits of thought around stories, and each time we retell them the old way, we reinforce the habit. The ruts get deeper and harder to get out of.…
How much of your happiness is up to you? Three-and-a-half slices worth. You are probably familiar with Ken Sheldon, David Schkade, and Sonja Lyubomirsky’s pie chart depicting where our happiness…
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Ready, Set, Flourish: Leadership to Ensure Your Home & School Communities Thrive
With Labor Day behind us, Fall is the time when we really spring ahead. September is full of opportunities for new beginnings, as millions of us return to school and…
A comedian on a late night talk show was recently discussing how he felt about turning 50. He said his friends tried to cheer him up by telling him that “50 is the new 40.” To this attempt at positive re-framing, the comedian promptly retorted, “Yeah, and rain is the new sun!” There is no escaping the “graying of America” as a demographic fact.
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Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence: The 2008 Olympic Games
Four billion people watched the Beijing Olympics opening ceremony, significantly more than watched any other recent TV program. Perhaps the Olympic Games have an inexplicable magic such that even people like my mother who do not follow sports closely are unable to take their eyes off the TV broadcast. Why do we so strongly appreciate the Olympic Games? I propose three sources for our appreciation of the beauty of the Olympic Games.
One of the most impressive scenes of the Olympic Games may have been when U.S. swimmer Michael Phelps shed tears on the medal podium when his sight met his mother’s on the spectator stand after achieving his unparalleled goal of winning 8 gold medals in the Olympic Games.