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Amanda Horne is an executive coach and facilitator whose business theme is "Thriving People and Workplaces." She is an Authentic Happiness Coaching graduate and a founding member of Positive Workplace International. Full bio.

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Editor’s Note: This is the 5th in a series of articles about The Oxford Handbook of Positive Organizational Scholarship. See also Kirsten Cronlund’s article,  A Powerful Collection: Book Review,, Giselle Nicholson’s Innovativeness as Positive Deviance, and Amanda Horne’s articles, Virtuous Organizations and Positive Deviance.

On the day that I was preparing a draft of this article, the headlines on the front page of our newspaper included, “Toxic culture hits swim team,” and “Sticks and stones: schoolchildren explain bullying factors.” That bullying and toxic cultures make the front page shows how our communities and workplaces are increasingly expecting behaviors that are considerate, caring, kind, compassionate, courteous, polite, and respectful. We want people to be good citizens, to value and appreciate others, to take an active interest in the well-being of others, and to act responsibly in relationships.

We want people to be civil towards each other.

Civility is the subject of Christine Porath’s chapter in The Oxford Handbook of Positive Organizational Scholarship. She presents the state of empirical research into civility in the workplace along with a summary of the benefits of civility and the costs of incivility. She calls for more research into civility in workplaces, noting that there has been less empirical research into the benefits of civility than into the costs of incivility.

Benefits of Civility

The benefits of civility at work are compelling:

  • Positive emotions are heightened, both in the giver and receiver. A broaden and build effect takes place, as described in Barbara Fredrickson’s work on positive emotions.
  • When people are treated with respect, they feel more valued in their organizations, which in turn affects their ability to work well and contribute with energy.
  • Relationships and trust are strengthened.
  • Thriving occurs.
  • Energy and enthusiasm are heightened.
  • Performance at work improves, both as people rate their work and as their managers rate their work.
  • Staff are more likely to be altruistic, courteous, helpful, and encouraging.
  • Staff are more connected with co-workers; they feel valued and appreciated, which improves collaboration, a sense of safety in the team, and comfort with giving and receiving feedback.

“Civility is the lubricant that fosters good teamwork.”

Porath also draws on a meta-analysis of a related subject, supportive peer relationships, which reveals that co-worker support provides a buffer in times of stress. There is a correlation between supportive peer relationships and improvements in attitudes towards work, performance, and well-being.

The Downside of Incivility at Work

The costs of incivility to workers include:

  • Negative feelings such as fear, anger, sadness
  • Intentions to quit
  • Reduced satisfaction with work
  • Loss of sense of meaning
  • Mental, physical, and psychological effects of stress
  • Feelings of threat, loss, and humiliation

“More than 60% of people who work in uncivil environments experience stress.”

“Over 80% feel used up by the end of the day.” (They feel emotionally exhausted, burnt out, with reduced motivation and enthusiasm.)

In a 2007 experimental study, Porath and her colleagues found incivility reduced people’s work performance, creativity, and collaboration. “Even with one-time, relatively low-intensity incidents [of incivility], participants who had been treated rudely were not able to concentrate as well.” They suffered short-term memory loss, recalling 20% less. These effects also occurred for staff who merely witnessed uncivil behaviors.

Interestingly, the study involved exposing participants to an uncivil event on their way to the experimental study, which demonstrates that acts of incivility outside one’s work unit can have a substantial impact. The implication is that a leader’s good work within a team can be undone by incivility in other parts of their organization.

In two studies where there were no acts of incivility, 90% and 73% of participants respectively offered to help others. However, when uncivil events were introduced only 35% and 23% of participants respectively offered to help others.

“Uncivil environments drain emotional and cognitive resources necessary for learning and performance.”

“92% of customers who witnessed an employee acting uncivilly toward another employee spoke negatively about the firm to others based on this incident.”

What causes incivility? Porath offers ideas such as narcissism, aggressiveness, stress, low EQ, and people who suffer from social inhibitions. However, some people do not deliberately set out to act uncivilly. There are different cultural norms, and what is uncivil in one culture or workplace may not be viewed as uncivil in other cultures. The personality of the receiver might also play a role: people have different thresholds for tolerating uncivil behavior.

How to Build Civility at Work

Porath offers this advice:

  • Leaders set the tone, so they need to advocate and model civil behaviors.
  • Commit to a culture of civility across the whole organization. Make civility an organizational priority, set guidelines, teach civility, and create group norms.
  • Hire for attitude.
  • Train people in emotional intelligence.
  • Improve the quality of the social environment.
  • Walk away, speak up, let go, act with dignity: choose the appropriate situational behavior.
  • Reward good behavior, and penalize bad behavior.

High-Quality Connections Matter

We can also look to Chapter 29 of the same book on High Quality Connections (HQCs). HQCs are short-term positive dyadic interactions that result in the same benefits as acts of civility. In this chapter we can learn ways to improve HQCs, which also involves increasing civil behaviors. They include:

  • Be aware of the other person.
  • Stand in their shoes, see their perspectives.
  • Express appreciation and gratitude.
  • Have an attitude of warmth and acceptance towards others.
  • Offer support, care, help, and empathy.
  • Be respectful.
  • Be playful, and have fun together.

Heart and Soul

For a workplace to retain its soul, health, productivity, quality work, and strong team relationships, the building block is respect and civility. Each day, we need to ask ourselves: “How can I be an active participant in creating these important foundations?”


Porath, C. L. (2011). Civility. In K. Cameron & G. Spreitzer (Eds.), The Oxford Handbook of Positive Organizational Scholarship

Stephens, J. P., Heaphy, E., Dutton, J. E. (2011). High-quality Connections. In K. Cameron & G. Spreitzer (Eds.), The Oxford Handbook of Positive Organizational Scholarship

Porath, C., Pearson, C.  “The Price of Incivility”. Harvard Business Review, January 2013

Porath, C. L. & Pearson, C. (2013, January 18) “You’re Rude Because Your Boss Is Rude.” Harvard Business Review blog.

Dutton, J. E. (2003). Energize Your Workplace: How to Create and Sustain High-Quality Connections at Work. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.

Mattice, C. (2009). Towards Positive Relationships with Workplace Bullies. Positive Psychology News.


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oz 10 April 2013 - 2:15 pm

Amanda – but what about the reality check. Like it or not most workplaces aren’t civil and the likelihood of that changing is zilch. So the only thing you can control is the way you interact

My solution – meditate. Then it’s all like water off a ducks back. All too easy.

By the way did you see the research about meditation making people more helpful.

Amanda Horne 10 April 2013 - 3:52 pm

Hi Oz

I agree. In the article above I wrote “The personality of the receiver might also play a role: people have different thresholds for tolerating uncivil behavior.”. this opens up the discussion about who the person affected by incivility can inrease their ‘psychological flexibility’ and reduce stress through practices such as mindfulness and meditation.

We need both: for people to be more civil, and for people to learn how to do the ‘water off the back’ thing. Meditation would help with both.

I didn’t see the research about meditation and helpfulness (do you have a link?). In Porath’s chapter she discusses research to support her point that “staff are more likely to be altruistic, courteous, helpful, and encouraging” (quoted from above). When treated uncivilly, people were less helpful. Where there was no incivility in her study, 90% of participants exhibited helpful behaviours. This dropped to 35% when the study participants were insulted.

CS 10 April 2013 - 10:19 pm

Wonderful article; fascinating research. Thanks!

Judy Krings 11 April 2013 - 6:49 am

Great article, Amanda and super rich food for thought and call to action.

What hit me immediately was everyone could benefit from reading this article! Work, life, play. My brain next went to seminars re: this very article. Then agreeing with the insightful group above, after the science behind civility has been surveyed, teaching mindfulness and having place people in business can go onsite to have even a few minutes of alone time to start the work day or whenever they needed it for that matter. Yes, some might take advantage, but…

I coach dentists, doctors, chiropractors, CEO’s to name a few. The go into their bathrooms and sit on the john and do a 3′ meditation from the book Mindfulness ~ An 8 Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World” by Williams and Penman. There are also 7 other easy meditations. I like Fredrickson’s too.

I am sending this article to al my client! Many thanks, again

oz 11 April 2013 - 12:51 pm


I have lost your email address so please email me and I’ll send the link.

I’m interested that you make a distinction between mindfulness and meditation. The two go hand in hand – there are no other proven mindfulness interventions so to a certain extent they are synonymous. Are you aware of any other proven ways to develop mindfulness?

Amanda Horne 16 April 2013 - 2:41 am

Hi CS – thanks, I agree, Porath’s work is very interesting.

Judy – great ideas, and yes, it is definitely valuable to help people to be aware of civility / incivility, but to have their own mindfulness strategies when navigating their workplace (home or community).
You have reminded me that I have Williams’ and Penman’s book on my shelf….must get around to reading it.

Oz – thanks for sending me the link. You can find some of the PPND authors’ contact addresses by going to the About Authors and Editors page and Our Coaches page on the PPND website. When putting the concepts into practice, I do think that meditation is different to conscious mindfulness exercises that I would use during the day e.g. in meetings. Always learning, I understand what you’re saying, and yes I do definitely find that meditation helps me to be more mindful.


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