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Love and Learn

By on February 20, 2009 – 11:00 am  9 Comments

Denise Clegg, MAPP 08, is Program Officer for the Positive Neuroscience project at the University of Pennsylvania Positive Psychology Center. She also serves as a facilitator for the Penn Resilience Program and is a daily editor for Positive Psychology News Daily.

Denise writes on the 20th of each month, and her articles are here.



The human ability to learn and adapt is king among our capacities – and research suggests that love is the queen of conditions enabling change and growth. We are wired, mind and body, to love and learn.

Falling in Lovekids_hugging.jpg

Love changes the brain. In general, change in life correlates with physical change in the brain made possible by neural plasticity. Love, bonding, and their associated neuromodulator, oxytocin, can initiate massive plastic change in the brain. Oxytocin has been described as “an amnesiac hormone” because it seems to soften neural networks in preparation for new learning and behaviors.

In The Brain that Changes Itself, Norman Doidge writes, “Plasticity allows us to develop brains so unique—in response to our individual life experiences—that it is often hard to see the world as others do … but what nature provides, in a neuromodulator like oxytocin, is the ability for two brains to go through a period of heightened plasticity, allowing them to mold to each other and shape each other’s intentions and perceptions” (p. 121).

Perhaps this is why Socrates so strongly connected learning, pursuing wisdom, and “the art of love.”

Being in Love

Must we fall in love every day to pursue change and growth? Not exactly. But you can commit to be in love every day and enjoy the benefits.

In 2008, Fredrickson and colleagues demonstrated that practicing loving-kindness meditation predictably induced positive emotions that built resources, increased life satisfaction, and buffered against depression. The research data suggests a positive dose-response relationship between meditation and positive emotions – literally, the more, the merrier. In this type of meditation, a person imagines and practices feeling loving-kindness for his or herself, friends and family, strangers and even people who have caused them pain.

Fredrickson notes, “The practice of loving-kindness meditation led to shifts in people’s daily experiences of a wide range of positive emotions including love, joy, gratitude, contentment, hope, pride, interest, amusement, and awe … These shifts were linked to increases in a variety of personal resources including mindful attention, self-acceptance, positive relations with others, and good physical health. Moreover these gains in personal resources were consequential: They enabled people to become more satisfied with their lives and to experience fewer symptoms of depression” (p. 1057).

Embodying Love

Physical touch is critical to early brain development, and the interplay of body and mind remains powerful throughout life. The positive emotions that buffer against depression and build health are embodied, somatic experiences.General Theory of Love book cover

Our bodies are constantly communicating with and influencing one another beyond our control. In A General Theory of Love, Thomas Lewis and colleagues note that while most people assume their bodies are self-regulating–that our physiological balance happens inside our own skins–we are actually “open-loop systems.” Our bodies constantly fine-tune functioning, adjusting heart rate and blood pressure, temperature, immune function, levels of sugars, hormones, etc. But some of our physiological systems are built to synchronize with others.

Lewis calls this reciprocal process “limbic regulation.” One person’s body transmits regulatory information inside the body of the first, and vice-versa, simultaneously. Lewis and colleagues note, “Neither is a functioning whole on his own; each has open loops that only somebody else can complete. Together, they create a stable, properly balanced pair of organisms.”

This open loop system can support healing and positive change. Human warmth and compassionate touch prime the release of oxytocin in brain and body.

When discussing the prospect of mass medication to fight rising depression, Lewis and colleagues write, “Less drastic routes abound: warm human contact also generates internal opiate release. Our lovers, spouses, children, parents, and friends are our daily anodynes, delivering the magic of forgetfulness from the twinging ache of mammalian loneliness. Potent magic indeed” (p. 96).

Love, in its many forms, has great benefits. And love is not lost nor found, but built, shared, savored, and practiced. Regarding happiness and success, the Dalai Lama has said:

“I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It is the ultimate source of success in life.”

 


 
References:

Doidge, N. (2007). The Brain That Changes Itself. New York: Penguin Books.

Fredrickson et al. (2008) Open Hearts Build Lives: Positive Emotions, Induced Through Loving-Kindness Meditation, Build Consequential Personal Resources. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Vol 95(5), Nov 2008, pp. 1045-1062.

Lewis, T., Amini, F., & Lanoran, R.. (2000). A General Theory of Love. New York: Random House.

Images:
kids hugging,
meditative landscape by David Niblack.

9 Comments »

  • WJ says:

    Dave – I ran a workshop yesterday. As I mentioned in a previous post, one of the things we teach people is a mantra. I tried an experiment and gave a couple of the particpants the mantra “I love you”. We then use HRV software to test the efficacy of the mantra.

    It worked really well for one of the participants but for the others it didn’t fly. One of the guys then tried the mantra “seinfeld” which worked. Another tried something form the movie anger management – again it worked. And for some a mantra didn’t work at all.

    The message – everyone is different. I suspect a loving kindness meditation will work for some people and not others. And that’s the skill of a good coach/psychologist – matching the intervention.

  • WJ says:

    Denise, sorry – posted in wrong article – but still seems appropriate to yours as well.

  • Loved your article, Denise.
    Your articles captivate and fascinate me. You make the complex accessible and the technical poetic. Thank you for the depth you bring to the PPND.
    Sincerely,
    MarieJ

  • Denise Clegg says:

    Marie-J,

    Thank you so much for your thoughts! It’s such a pleasure to be writing about these topics.

    D.

  • Denise,

    Thanks for the thought-provoking article. I am particularly interested in the reciprocal limbic regulation. Does Lewis describe how this happens? What a cool confirmation that we really are connected to one another in ways that aren’t objectively obvious!

  • Denise says:

    Hi Kirsten — the authors describe the concept in depth and give several examples as well as scientific refs, but I’m not sure if the physiological mechanisms — exactly how it happens — have been revealed. It’s a terrific book!

  • Senia Maymin says:

    Denise, this is so interesting to me.
    How would you suggest applying this idea of love and learn? Do you think people when people want to learn content, they should put themselves into a more love-filled mood? With book learning too? Is this close to curiosity? Openness? Or is it really love that’s important for learning?

    This phrase was my favorite!

    “Perhaps this is why Socrates so strongly connected learning, pursuing wisdom, and “the art of love.” ”

    S.

  • Denise Clegg says:

    Senia,

    Thank you! Great question … to continue the conversation, here’s a related link exploring why learning should be fun: http://schoolofeverything.com/blog/learning-should-be-fun, and another about research showing that oxytocin improves some kinds of memory http://seedmagazine.com/news/2009/02/a_hormone_to_remember_1.php

  • Senia Maymin says:

    Oh cool, thanks, Denise!

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