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Are You a “Love Cycler™” or a “Clicker™?”
February 2, 2009 – 9:00 am | 14 Comments
Are You a “Love Cycler™” or a “Clicker™?”

Recently Dawn and I were asked two interesting questions. One person asked, “Your parents do so much for you guys; why do you think they are so giving?” A couple weeks later, someone asked the second question: “You and Dawn do a lot for your parents; how come you do so much for them?” Until recently I held these questions separately in my mind. I now see they are part of the same question. Why do we all do so much for each other? The answer is that we are in what I call a “Love Cycle.”

Appreciate Your Loved Ones with a Gratitude Chain, Part II
January 2, 2009 – 8:56 am | 8 Comments
Appreciate Your Loved Ones with a Gratitude Chain, Part II

You cultivate three things in the process of building a Gratitude Chain™: awareness of what and for whom you are grateful, curiosity about what makes something you value possible, and memory of what is good. And when you link together your Gratitude Chains™, you experience a powerful appreciation of the important people and things in your life.

How to Take the Power Away from Bad Memories
December 2, 2008 – 10:12 am | 29 Comments
How to Take the Power Away from Bad Memories

Our brain automatically tries to keep us safe. We are wired not to hurt or kill ourselves. The challenge is that the brain has an alarm system that can be hypersensitive. We often receive physical and emotional alerts to warn us of problems that pose no real threat. As a result, we are left to respond to psychological and physical false alarms. [...]

Gratitude Is a Bridge to Your Positive Future ©
November 2, 2008 – 12:01 am | 10 Comments
Gratitude Is a Bridge to Your Positive Future ©

Gratitude is a bridge to your positive future:  It is your passageway to success.
 
Think about a bridge crossing a river.  It must have strong supporting foundations on both banks.  Without the foundations securely anchored, …

Focus + Humility + Questions = Momentum©
October 2, 2008 – 9:02 am | 10 Comments

Focus + Humility + Questions = Momentum©
Let me check something out with you.  Pretend for a moment that your friend, child, spouse, employee, or your boss said to you: “I would like to learn from …

Agree on Success. You’ll Be Happy You Did.©
September 2, 2008 – 12:01 am | 13 Comments

Agree on Success.  You’ll Be Happy You Did.© 
Be clear on what’s expected of you in your job.  Agree on what success looks like.  Don’t be shy.  Ask how you’re going to be judged.  I learned …

“You’re A Good Packer.” Name a Strength and Make a Difference.
August 2, 2008 – 11:36 pm | 21 Comments

Show me the trunk of your car. Hand me your luggage. Step back. I’ll find a way to fit it all in. I’m a good packer.
No car, no mini-van, no SUV scares me. I can …

A “Gratitude Moment”: The Letter
July 2, 2008 – 8:33 am | 8 Comments

I checked on Dawn and the girls.  Dawn was sleeping.  And Eliana and Ariela were sprawled across our bed fast asleep.  We let them stay up a little later than usual (sometimes we let them …

Find Your Voice By Tapping Your Strengths ©
June 2, 2008 – 12:01 am | 14 Comments
Find Your Voice By Tapping Your Strengths ©

It was 1977 and I was in the sixth grade. I joined the Boy’s Choir. I really didn’t like singing in choirs, but I joined anyway. All my friends had signed up, so I did …

Who Do You Run To?©
May 2, 2008 – 10:42 am | 21 Comments

It was 1976. I was in the fifth grade. The fifty-yard dash record for Lake Bluff Elementary School in Shorewood, Wisconsin was set in the mid 1950s. I had a chance to break it. I walked past my classmates and stepped up to the starting line. I looked at my gym teacher, Mr. (Buddy) Wolf. He blew his whistle and I took off running. I pumped my legs and arms as fast as I could. 6.5 seconds later I leaned into the finish line and I heard the click of Mr. Wolf’s stop watch. I turned around just as fast as I could to hear Mr. Wolf say: “You just broke the school record!”

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