Articles in Positive Feelings
I made a more gentle resolution for 2016, because I am a parent in a world where “mom guilt” is the trend. I want to do the best I can for the kids I love, but sometimes more is unproductive and better is unrealistic. By pairing my natural urges to be perfect with the remorse I carried following my son’s burn injury, I was on a one-way trip to martyrdom. For this reason, 2016 was the year of self-compassion. My year-end reflection reveals a happier, more resilient version of myself so I think this resolution is one I will keep.
Yes there are crowds, more on the to-do list, and the flu season is upon us. But there are also more connections, sparkle, and cheer. Since I am (somewhat gracefully) surviving this holiday season with the support of the concepts I understand from positive psychology, I am compelled to spread my cheer by sharing my holiday survival list.
My rainbow baby writer’s block serves as a reminder that sometimes we need to sit back and let life unfold while maintaining self-compassion in our passive state.
Like any business leader, I wanted to be informed of what my employees were up to, so I requested that all of us write status reports. But status reports can become boring and sometimes feel pointless. What does science tell us about making them both a joy to write and a joy to read?
Perhaps I don’t need to fear the world I leave behind for my children. Perhaps technology is paving the way for them to come together as a common humanity.
“If you could do only one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?” This question, posed by Greg McKeown stopped me in my tracks. Applying it specifically to work, I wondered what one thing I could happily do for the rest of my life. The answer, strangely enough, arrived in my head as a diagram.
This is part 2 of the 2015 annual holiday gift article, supplementing part 1 published yesterday that listed books and things. Today’s suggestions are about experiences and actions that can contribute to well-being, as well as ways to think about giving.
Since 2008, we have published an annual article with ideas for gifts for the holiday season. This year we collected enough ideas for two articles. Today’s includes ideas that you may want to order because we know time is getting short. Later this week the second article will include actions and experiences that don’t take quite so much forethought.
To feel truly happy, loving, joyous, confident, peaceful, grateful, loving,and all the other positive feelings, you have to allow yourself to feel the negative feelings (within a healthy range). I call this the sad and happy irresolvable dilemma. From my observation, this is a necessary lesson to get the full benefit from all other happiness lessons.
Infatuation with speed is a characteristic of our times. We live in the fastest phase of human history. That can lead to what Larry Dossey in 1982 termed time-sickness, as we become fearful of missing out. The ability to stay with the discomfort of life’s paradoxes and our own ignorance and to remain patient and still while questions and answers grow in never-ending cycles, requires a certain mental toughness that seems to be on its way out in a world in a hurry.